Today is July 6th, which is National Kissing Day! Now, I’m not usually one for celebrating random holidays, but I feel quite strongly about getting my smooch on, seeing as its one of my favourite things to do!

I have had many favourite kisses and I am sure you have had too-from the fiery, overwhelmingly passionate ones, to the slow movers that would make many a Mills and Boons novel, and I am sure you have, too. Here are some of my most memorable…

Teenage Kicks are hard to beat-Lancome Juicy Tubes, 14.00@ debenhams.com

Stick 'em up-MAC Vegas Volt, 12.50 @maccosmetics.co.uk

My lipgloss is poppin' YSL style-Gloss Pur, 20.00@selfridges.com

TLC comes in this three; Kiehls Lip balm, SPF 15, 12.00 @kiehls.co.uk

Care to share about your most memorable smooch? Or your favourite lip salvation?

New girl crush alert. New girl crush alert. New girl crush alert.

Meet Veronica Varlow. She is a dee-lish combination of pulp film vixen, pin-up girl, and femme fatale. She has a 1950’s-inspired clothing website Danger Dame, designed to bring out the inner Bettie Page in every woman, and also performs burlesque at various hot spots around New York City. She’s multi-talented, multi-tasking and entrances her audiences with spellbinding glamour.

Come meet her, you’ll fall under spell too…

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Now, there is never anything wrong with a lil’ bump and grind, but sometimes its good for a girl to experiment with herself, and uhm, other things. I’ll be a bit honest, the word ‘vibrator’, makes me go red in the face, still, and much to everyone’s surprise, I am always the shy one hiding in the corner-or just getting really drunk- at and Ann Summers party. As a lingerie designer, it has always been something I have been very aware of, but this has still never made things any less confusing for me, no matter how many times, I have let the tip of a jelly phallus vibrate on the tip of my nose.
Which is why, I have asked Stephanie Baker, the CEO of Fun Factory toys, to, er, give it to me straight.

Quick an’ Easy?
Feeling a little bit fruity, but only have about ten minutes before you have to leave for work/can’t really be bothered before you go to bed? Then the best thing to use is a toy with a small motor, which hits the nerve endings of the clitoris directly and help you reach your destination quicker. According to Steph, the best products to buy are the ones with different speeds and pulsations built in so you can beat to the rhythm of your own drum and avoid ‘numbing your fun’. Because they have smaller motors, they are also usually quieter and are good for solo sessions.

SASSY RECOMMENDS; Clockwise from LEFT; LAYAspot magenta, 43.00@funfactory, LELO Mia, 36.95@lovehoney.co.uk, Pink bullet vibrator, 10.00@annsummers.com, LoveBunnies, 10.00@lovehoney.co.uk

Big Boys
A toy with a larger motor, creates a lower, yet more powerful vibration that has a deep and throbbing sensation that travels through your muscles, rubs against the clitoris indirectly, hits the g-spot and is the next best thing to sex. Steph’s best recommendation is Fun Factorys bestseller, the Semirealistic SmartVibe which has 8 speeds, 3 pulsations and a BOOST button for that crucial ‘O’ moment. For dual penetration, vibrators like the famous Ann Summers Rabbit, stimulate the clitoris and internally and if anything else giving you a good once-over, with different types of waves and throbs.

Double the Fun
If you are using a toy with a partner, Steph says it is best to find a toy that works the clitoris, easy to hold and operate and is small enough to be used at the same time as sex. If you are a beginner, she says it is best to experiment together, beginning with a vibrating ring-I recommend Durex’s Play ring- and then work up towards more ambitious toys, like the We-Vibe II, which hits the clitoris and the g-spot and can be attached to your man.

Semirealistic SmartVibe, 55.99@ funfactory.co.uk,Doc Johnson Jenna Velvet Jewel Multispeed, 16.99@lovehoney.co.uk, Rampant Rabbit G Pulse Remote, 49.00@annsummers.co.uk, Play Ultra, 10.99 @shop.durex.com, We Vibe II Clitoral and G-Spot Vibrator, 77.49 @ lovehoney.co.uk

Ain’t Nuthin but a G thang
Or so they say. Dispelling the myth, that it doesn’t exist, Steph says, that you have to find a toy which suits you. The G spot is usually an inch or so inside the vagina, behind the belly button, and to be able to reach it during penetration, the focus must be at the tip of the toy, otherwise you won’t feel the benefits. The Delight, by Fun Factory has been designed to reach the G-spot at the same time as stimulating the clitoris, and it has been awarded as Sex Toy of the Year by Company magazine and was the Winner in Good Housekeeping’s Sex toy survey.

Electric Feel
Erotic toys can be made of many things from the more luxurious wood and glass crystal, to the flexible and jellier feeling toys. Although these are usually made of natural silicone-which doesn’t degrade or fade, some of the cheaper varieties contain bad emollients and solvents that can be absorbed by internal mucus membranes, and are harmful to long term use. Steph says to avoid any toys that smell really plasticy, as they usually contain these types of solvents. If you want to save the world, and rock your own too, there are many sextoys which are now rechargable, and the new Click N Charge range from Fun Factory also do this.

SASSY RECOMMENDS; Shiri Zinn Minx vibrator, 99.00 @ exclusivelyeve.co.uk, , Hot and Cold Ceramic Dildo, 115.00@ coco-de-mer.com, Promises G-Spot vibrator, 18.00 @annsummers.com, JimmyJane Little Chroma special edition inked, 108.00@exclusivelyeve.co.uk, The Delight, 85.99 @ funfactory.co.uk, 16.99@lovehoney.co.uk

Good Vibrations
Of course, this guide would be no good, if we didn’t recommend where to shop from.
My personal favourite is Coco De Mer, the erotic emporium which hosts a variety of products from lingerie, oils and books to toys and accessories. I also really like Pleasure Chest, which is stateside -NY, LA, Chicago-as it stocks similar items and salons, and their staff are just great. Steph’s favourite is Shhh! in Hoxton Square, London, where she says the staff are really helpful and informative as well as showcasing samples of the toys. It depends on the experience you want-a group of girls usually find Ann Summers a haven for toys and games, which is great for those that want to have fun sex, rather than an erotic experience. It’s also a great place to take your man, as he won’t find it too intimidating. For those shysters amongst us-me included!- lovehoney.co.uk and exclusivelyeve.co.uk are brilliant, as they are really female orientated, but boys might prefer sextoys.co.uk which is more factual.

But no matter where you shop, or what you buy, be safe and only do what you feel comfortable with. Sassy AND Sorted!

If you have any questions, or even care to share, comment below!

They say that the best teachers never stop learning, and here, at The Sassy Minx, we love to find new things and have a go at them for ourselves. Whilst I’ve indulged in pole-dancing and cookery, and Lisa in tarot and hula-hooping, it’s fair to say, we are big fans of educating ourselves.

Here are our top tips for this springs uniquely fun and crafty salons…

Super Swingers and Fascinators…

We have mentioned Ruka@ Sugarlesque and What Katie Did, a few times on Sassy already, so we are quite excited that they’ve decided to team up on nipple-tassle and hat making classes at the Portobello Road boutique. Pastie swingers can learn how to embellish and create burlesque nipple covers for £30.00, and top-hat or fascinator lovers can go wild with feathers, ribbons and trimmings for £45.00. The classes on Sunday 6th June and Sunday 4th July, run from 12.30 to 5.30 and if you choose to go to both, they are available at the lower price of £65.00.

Find out more at www.whatkatiedid.com, or to book, email sugar@sugarlesque.com.

Neck-a-loada this…

We told you a few weeks ago, that one of our favourite jewellery makers, has shut its doors to the public, but this is still not stopping Leona Baker at Lady Luck Rules OK!, from sharing her wisdom with the world. From personalising glittery broken hearts, printed acrylic pendants, fuzzy wooden animals and learning about techniques that can be applied to not only jewellery, but clothing, stationary and homeware, her workshops promise to teach you about the beginnings of product making, like where to buy materials and sampling, to finishing and detailed production information. The three hour classes run on the 23rd, 25th May and 12th June at Superette, Off Brick Lane, in London and are only £25.00.

For more information, email; leona@ladyluckrulesok.com

Beauty-Queen…

Nadira Persaud AKA the Make-Up Mistress, has made up the faces of many: Jaime Winstone, Beverley Knight, Denise Van Outen to name a few, and has also created the make-up and hair for Agent Provocateur and various ELLE and Marie Claire shoots. Now she’s on-hand to offer her expert advice, with her Makeup Mistress Makeover.. Teaching you how to perfect your makeup, she will educate you how to get Lush luxurious Lashes, and show you how to achieve an instant face lift with her High Brow lift. Not only this, she will go through your makeup bag and show you what works-and doesn’t work, so you have star quality all the time.

Contact Nadira through her website;www.nadiramakeupmistress.com

Please Yourself…

Getting to know yourself is one of the most intimate and expressive things you can do, and those clever people at Coco De Mer in London, have formulated a whole range of erotic-based salons from Tricks to Please a Man, Spanking and our featured Please yourself, which is all about female masturbation. Rachel Foux is on hand to teach how to do this and show you how to make the most of your, uhm, potential. Apparently even the staff at Coco De Mer, who are highly experienced in the sexual arts, learned a lot from this lecture, so it’s surely saying something!
Find out more at Coco De Mer.

Hola!

So, Ms L and I have taken a little time out to get inspired and drop some fun times, so I thought that it’s only fair to pass the feel-good feeling on, let you know what we’ve been doing (and buying, because c’mon, no one needs a break from shopping, right?!)

The bank holiday weekend was spent retro-stylee. We lunched at a BBQ and then went to the travelling fair with some tins of Strongbow – I know, I know, but I did pretty much co-ordinated my outfit to the can, that’s got to be a good thing hasn’t it? – and sang and danced to Lady Gaga’s new tune. Love her, or hate her we just can’t resist wanting to take a ride on her “Disco Stick”.

Our new thing du jour, is to only snog on dates as opposed to offering a full menu of service. We don ‘t know if its to do with the recession, but later on in the pub, we were speaking to lots of girls and boys who said they too are relishing a good pash-up over a drunken smash-up. It seems fitting then, that last week I was sent a gift of Urban Retreat’s Lip Service. An exfoliator, base to keep colour in, primer to moisturise and gloss to make your lips zing and I feel like I got some of the best bee-stung, kissable lips in town.

£19.50 www.beautique.com

To chill, I read the hilarious “Its Not Me, Its You” by Charlotte Ward. Punchy, straight-to the point and plenty of moments we can all relate to, although there are also a LOT of moments that made me realise my break-ups have been a walk-in-the-park in comparison – I just couldnt put it down. Break up stories don’t usually appeal to me, but hey, we’ve all been there with the Kleenex and the ice cream tub, haven’t we? Whether you’ve been scorned or not, this is a must-read.

£5.99 www.amazon.co.uk

Im off to the white isle of Ibiza next week, so I treated myself to a treat in the form of a screenstar-esque bikini from Pistol Panties. Its not often I get to feel like Brigitte Bardot in St Tropez, but this well cut bikini not only covers my derriere the way it should, its so very, very pretty that I could forgive the price tag.

www.pistolpanties.com

Finally, what with the amazing bank holiday weekend I’ve had, and the fantastic things I’ve been doing and looking forward to, this ring seems to sum it all up – I know I’ll be glancing down at it and twirling it round my finger when I’m feeling glum at work. ‘Think Of Wonderful Thoughts’ by Disney Couture. Walt might have misled us with his fairytale endings, but it’s the moments of joy, that spring from thoughts that make a girl feel the real magic.
£25.00 www.asos.com

So, this is one for the girls that ask me about lingerie, and where to get it from, every time I tell them what I do. Because girls, no matter what shape or size you are, there is fabulous lingerie out there for you. And if you don’t know what and where, here’s my Sassy Minx guide to pretty, perfect-fitting underwear…

A to the DD

If you’re a size A to a DD, you’re incredibly lucky as the world is pretty much your bra! As broad as this sounds, every retailer worth its salt should stock your size. Nevertheless, I’m told frequently by A and B cups that they want bigger breasts, which is fine but I also want to take the opportunity to say that there are excellent products out there like balcony, half and quarter cup bras that give shape and sex appeal – the latter two being something any size over a D find difficult to pull off. As for C to DD cups, what a lucky girl you are!

Budget Babes
You lucky ones can get away with something these F’s can’t – Arcadia. Feel free to snatch and grab from Topshop, Dorothy Perkins and Miss Selfridge. And beyond this – H&M, and pretty much, the rest of the British High Street – get shopping, g-friend!

Girly Glam
Yes, Master gloriously does what it says on the tin, with its decadent yet cheeky collections. Lascivicous is innovative and highly desirable with a masses of sexuality. Miss LaLa’s will sing to your inner movie star and make you want to lounge around with tousled hair and Brigitte Bardot pouty lips. Seriously.

Ba-Ba Boom a la Bust
Agent Provocateur, Coco De Mer and MYLA are your weapons of choice. Feel free to use them any which way you want……

Volupte Vixen (AKA Big tits)
So you can’t get bras that don’t have huge straps, and all the bras you see are frumpy and unfashionable, right? WRONG. You’ve got bangers that just need to be banged up properly. The name of the game is support and comfort, because lets face it, you just aren’t going to feel like a glamazon unless it’s both of those things, so start educating yourself as to where where the pretty ones are hiding, even if you do have to put up with the straps – if I do, you do!

Budget Babes

Some high street shops do go up to a G cup. Good old Marks and Spencer’s have the Ceriso and Adored ranges which are purrity and very fashion-led. Asda are also great too – the Katie Price range is excellently priced for moulded cup bras with pretty detailing. La Senza is also very good for acidic clashes and pretty patterns.

Girly Glam
Masquerade and Cleo are delightful. Both a daughter of the Panache brand, Masquerade caters in balcony styles, and Cleo in plunge styles. To rival this, there’s even more choice from Freya and Fantasie, the daughter of the Evedon brand, which is pretty much available everywhere. You are spoilt for choice, ladies.

Ba-Ba Boom a la Bust

It’s really hard to find more luxury plus size cups that go beyond F, just because when you reach beyond that, the bust in question has to be tailored properly which is not easy to mass-market in price point compared to the brands in Girly Glam (above). However, there is some choice – Chantelle is decandent and feminine and goes up to an F in some ranges and Miss Mandalay has gorgeous styles – try Paige. The most exciting news is that Elle Macpherson Intimates launches it DD-G range later this month, so keep your eyes peeled as it is sure to sell out – I know, I’ve seen it! Finally – if you want to be super naughty, like me, Agent Provocateur does go up to an F cup – F stands for fox, doncha know?

SOLUTIONS-because it wasn’t ever going to be THAT easy to give you advice!

Odd ones
Let’s go for unique – tres chic. One is bigger than the other. I can assure you this is completely normal, and you don’t need to think about going to Transform to enquire about getting a boob job.  To even things out, you can get padding in silicone, foam and even bead form, I’d recommend the cheaper silicone. Luckily, you can get half cups which is handy for slight differences and full cup, for obvious differences.
completely recommend Fashion First Aid for this as they have lots of handy tools to use and make the best of your bust.

Hot Mama
Hot Milk are for sexy new mothers and mothers to be. With cotton inside cups, and stretch lace for the top panel, the bra offers lift and growth. You should pick your usual size, and check that you can fit your fingers in between the flesh and the cup at the top of the bust, this means you can wear throughout pregnancy and during feeding, meaning you make the most of your bra! Also try Elle Macpherson maternity, or Agent Provocateur for sexier styles.

So to summarise here are my final tips;
1.  Get measured make sure you’re wearing the right size – more tips from me in the ‘About Us’ section.
2.  It’s trial and error, all brands offer different fits, so experiment until you find out what suits you best.
3. Make sure you’re comfortable and will feel comfortable to wear your lingerie – there’s no point splashing out 150 pounds plus otherwise!
4. You are a Sassy Minx. You are sexy and your body is something to be treasured and pleasured. Believe it.

And of course, if you need some help or a bit more direction, please feel free to ask me down below – I dont usually give people that opportunity !

There are moments in a girl’s life when she feels freakin’ lonely. My lonely time is usually the Sunday after a heavy night out, when I look not-so-glam, I’ve eaten chocolate for breakfast and cried my eyes out to SATC the Movie for the gazillionth time. For me, the morning after the night before is one of the hardest things about being single, but staying in that dark place for longer than I need to is not cool, but the good news is that being single doesn’t need to equal lonely – embrace the alone time, make every hour Me o’ Clock.

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Minxes, take my hand and come on a trip to Scoopsville City.

Why?

Because I’ve hooked up with the radular Zoe Larkin, the designer-girl responsible for creating the ‘Blake’ brooch that become an iconic addition to the craziness that is Amy Winehouse’s beehive – I know, awesome, right?

I’m a li’l bit in love with all of Zoe’s Love From Hetty & Dave creations, but my totes favourite is the double sided personalised heart necklace – le sigh. I want it in pink with a silver chain and for it to say ‘Sassy’ on one side, and ‘Minx’ on the other – hot, non? All her creations are handmade and are perfect-o for rockin’ up a blazer, a girly dress or a big ‘do ala Miss Winehouse oh, and I’m a li’l bit in love with Zoe too, as we share a love for the same inspir-o girls, 1950’s tattoo designs and Frida Kahlo – come share in the awesomeness that is Love From Hetty & Dave…

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First up – big apologies for the sporadic posting here at SM, but I’ve got a good excuse, honest…I’ve moved house!

Yep, hang the pink bunting, Sassy Minx HQ has a new pile o’ bricks – it’s a by-the-sea girly pad and while it’s not entirely pink and fabulous just yet, I’m channeling Martha Stewart – the domesticated goddess Martha, not the fraud/prison dwelling Martha – to make sure that it will be very, very soon, by making lists.

I am a list-making freak.

Fact.

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I was walking in my ‘hood yesterday in a Miami Vice meets Chanel ensemble – think stripe boat top, tulip mini and white linen jacket with gold pearl jewellery, with Ms L who was working a tattooed Heidi Seeker cardigan, black dress and pink hair foliage, when out of a passing car came “OI OI SWEETHEARTS!” Needless to say, we both laughed at this, uhm, gesture and agreed it was decidedly better than the unintelligible “AWIGHT!” that was shouted at us half-hour previously. We then broke into a Sex And The City style convo about the art of the chat-up, or to Americanise, the pick-up.

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